Moms, what is your inner coach telling you? When I was young, there was a jingle for a perfume commercial that went like this, “I bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let you forget you’re a man because I am a woman.” It still plays in my mind. How is that for programing a mother’s inner coach?
Subconsciously it programed how I defined being a good mother and wife. When I was balancing it all, I would literally sing the song to myself to celebrate the power of being a wife and mother.
However, that way of being is not sustainable or helpful. It made me feel less than when I couldn’t be all things. Everyone else’s needs came before mine. This often left me with little time for myself.
It wasn’t until I was helping my 10-year-old son learn that it was OK to know what he needed and he could ask for help that things started to change.
I would practice different ways of showing and saying to my son, “You can know what you need and ask for help. Your needs are important.” I made it a daily habit.
What I realized from offering those messages day after day is that my son was not the only one that needed them.
The Developmental Affirmations started to replace the “I can do it all” jingle as my inner coach.
Instead of bringing home the bacon and frying it up in a pan, I began to hear, “You can be powerful and ask for help at the same time. You can think before you say yes or no and learn from your mistakes and that I am a loveable mother just the way I am.”
This month is dedicated to mothers as we explore our inner coaches and while our needs met.
Which Developmental Affirmation would help you find the balance between your needs, your family’s needs, and community needs?
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